Oh what a tangled web we weave, when we practise to deceive.
Lying comes in different forms
ranging from the little white lie, the porky pie, the fib or half-truth to the
big brazen bare faced variety. Some roll off the tongue to spare people’s
feelings whilst others are told to save ourselves….think Lance Armstrong, Tiger
Woods, politicians.
In the scale of lying there is a
gaping void between claiming the tasteless meal you just ate was delicious, and breaking the Oath made from the witness stand in a court room. It
may be that you have been the one to tell the lie or the one on the receiving end. Either way dishonesty has a habit of rearing it's ugly head.
What is the correct term for a
situation where an individual intentionally misleads you for their own advantage? They know something that you don’t, but they choose
not to tell you in order to get what they want. Does that count as a lie or does
it depend on your own moral compass? Does it matter if those involved are
strangers, or friends, or lovers?
What about vintage lies? Does
discovering now that someone lied to you years ago have little or more punch? Does
it sting less when you no longer have the liar in your life? Do you confront
the liar and ask them about it? Would you
believe their explanation? Does it really matter now?
I've heard of skeletons in the closet but being slapped in the face with a vintage lie is a new experience that I encountered just recently. This vintage lie was told many moons ago by someone who I now rarely see but still have the highest respect and affection for. A person I considered to be a straight talker, one of the good guys, someone I could trust.
The truth was revealed by sheer chance, a random conversation about the past. I doubt the lie was told with malicious intent but
it definitely hid the truth and in doing so was unfair and very selfish.
Am I angry about it? I probably
should be, but no, I'm not angry.
Am I surprised? Yes, quite
shocked in fact.
Am I disappointed? I'm absolutely
gutted.
I've had plenty time to think about it and think about my feelings for this person. What did I learn from this experience? Well it's simple - Pedestals are for vases, not people. Everyone makes mistakes, some forgiveable, some not.
What would I like the liar to learn?.... That tangled webs are for spiders and when you really care for someone, they deserve the truth, even if it hurts.
What would I like the liar to learn?.... That tangled webs are for spiders and when you really care for someone, they deserve the truth, even if it hurts.
Honesty is always the best
policy.
Nice post Annie! I did one pretty similar a long time ago... different perspective though! :) I particularly like the fact that these are 'vintage' lies which have aged like a fine wine. Hope you don't feel gutted for long... :)
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